Updated: Feb 27
Love is cool but let’s address the elephant in the room. Your feelings have changed. The craft that you used to deeply love and care about now seems more distant than ever. And while you expected some bumps along the road, with Valentine’s Day being the biggest reminder of love and passion, you can’t help but think to yourself how did we get here? But don’t worry, it doesn’t have to be that way. There is still time to rekindle the flame and passion you once had for your craft. Trust me, by the end of this post, you’ll be in love again.
First, take a moment to think about the time when you felt most in love with your craft. What was it like? Maybe you had an insane passion for painting and when you were most in love with it you would just pick random colors and paint for hours. It was just you and your painting supplies, unplanned and uninterrupted. You felt a peace wash over you; things were flowing smoothly. Those moments were special to you. Take a moment, close your eyes and think about the happiest moment you remember engaging in your craft. Now make a mental or physical list of the elements that made it a special time for you.
Okay, you have your list fresh in your mind...or on paper, so let’s jump right into some ways to fall in love with your craft all over again.
Commitment is Key
If you want to grow deeper in love with your craft, you have to commit. There is no other way to say it. You won’t be able to elevate your craft if you’re on the fence about it all the time. You have to give your craft a strong and firm "yes". By giving your craft a yes, you are giving yourself permission to go all-in with your craft.
Make time for it
Staying connected with your craft and your passions take time. Life gets busy and everyone knows what it is like to have to push what we love to do all the way to the bottom of our to-do list simply because we have to prioritize other things. The truth is, as awesome as it may be to just find yourself with a little extra time on your hands, it is unlikely that you will have an ample amount of time to fully indulge in your interest without some planning. Set a goal to spend some time on your craft. It could be as simple as carving out five minutes a day or 1 hour a week. It is completely up to you! We all know that spending time with something you love increases the strength in the connection.
No two journeys are exactly alike. Even if you have the same craft as someone else, it doesn’t mean that your experiences will be the exact same. We all have different skills and abilities. Some things are easier or more difficult for certain people. While it is amazing to admire others, comparison is a slippery slope. We can learn from each other and help each other but we shouldn’t compare ourselves to each other. That could cause us to have low confidence, jealousy, and even make us feel like we aren’t progressing in our craft the way that we should. In order to be positive and remain sparked, we have to let go of comparison and trade it for appreciation. With the right amount of healthy appreciation, you can grow an even more loving adoration for your craft.
Throw out limiting beliefs
We can really get in our own way sometimes, especially when it comes to believing in our ability to perform well. Have you ever found yourself questioning if you should pursue your interest in a certain area? Maybe you’ve always wanted to try something but you’ve told yourself It’s too late to start now, I haven’t done that in years, or I’ll never be good at it. These types of thoughts are dangerous to our relationship with our craft because they sow seeds of doubt. They actually pull us away from spending time practicing our craft. We must get rid of the limiting beliefs that we place on ourselves and our abilities because they damage our relationship with our craft. Instead, throw those limiting thoughts to the wind and tell yourself positive things that will uplift you and inspire you to dive deeper into your craft.
Try something new
Alright, I know that no one wants to admit it, but sometimes we get bored with our craft. Normally, the source of this boredom is because we are trying to be friends with repetition! When we find that something works, we tend to stick with it but taking some risks could add some excitement to our craft. Stepping out on a limb and trying something new could be the re-spark that we need to fall in love with our craft again. Whether it is something as simple as changing your initial approach or taking on a project you have never tried before, injecting a little change could be just enough to break up the monotony and inspire you to take your craft to the next level.
Appreciate the win
Love without appreciation can be an equation for frustration. Without a pause of recognition for our accomplishments, oftentimes we quickly shift into asking ourselves now what? The painter has finished her painting, now what? The writer has finished her book, now what? The dancer has created choreography, now what? Part of embracing a vizun (vision) is taking a moment to truly appreciate what has been accomplished. We set the goal, meet the goal, and then immediately begin working on setting new goals. When we love something quite a bit, it is easy to take it for granted, not allowing it time to love us back. Take a moment to see the win [healthy pause] appreciate the win [another healthy pause], and admire the work in its fullness; then you can look forward to the future of the relationship. This encourages you to cultivate the current relationship while also exploring your craft on a deeper level.
Be inspired to envision (nvziun)
Passion and vision could ultimately go hand in hand. Part of having a vision is seeing what’s next for you. Don’t get me wrong, some people have simple visions and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Visions are important to keep us connected to our craft because it is a path that leads us out of the “what now” zone. So, if you don’t have a vision for your craft, I encourage you to take some time and dream, imagine, and be inspired by what you want to do with your craft.
Don’t quit after the honeymoon
You’ve become insanely interested in a new skill or craft so you put your all into it for a little time but things are way more complicated than you thought they would be...so you quit, or you tell yourself you’ll come back to it later – flashforward 10 months and you haven’t looked back. Your determination is dwindling into nothingness and you feel like you’re in way over your head so you give up. Don’t feel bad, this is widely experienced amongst craftsmen and creatives. Whether you’re seasoned in your craft or just getting started there will be bumps in the road. So, what should you do when the going gets tough?
The best thing I believe you can do is take a moment for yourself, seek help from a community of like-minded creatives, and stay inspired. Love doesn’t give up easily; learn to rest and take breaks but don’t throw in the towel. If you’ve been working at something and continually struggling, take a step back to regroup. When you are taking time to take care of yourself, you can truly love your craft. Don’t be afraid to take time for yourself. When you step away to reset, it is helpful if you get an accountability buddy. Something as simple as telling someone you trust that you’ve been feeling frustrated or defeated by your project and that you will take 1 day or 2 days to reset is a way to get the accountability you need to return to your craft sooner than later.
Also, don’t be afraid to take advice from people who have the same interests as you and the people you love and trust. Many enthusiasts will offer you some advice or support if you’re vocal about it. Believe it or not, people like to help! Lastly, stay inspired. Return to your sources of inspiration during rough patches to help you remember why you started. If you need some help getting inspired, check out this post about how to find your spark.
It’s never too late to re-spark and reconnect to your craft! If you want to join a community of people who commit to their craft, check out the TAM community page.
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